Throughout middle school and high school I was totally the typical teenage girl that was too cool for family time, thought my parents were out to get me and ruin my fun, and stubborn as it gets. Looking back now, there is so much I wish I had done and thought differently. But, making mistakes is part of growing up and I definitely don’t regret anything I have done because I realize that it has formed me into who I am now. However, if I could talk to my teenage self there are so many things I would say.
I have a tendency to over think everything like it’s my job. The purple shirt or black shirt? Eggs or bagel? Tea or coffee? This friend or that friend? Am I pretty enough? Smart enough? Good enough? Literally every aspect of my life and my high school years was spent thinking over and over and over about things that should have been so insignificant. I was constantly worried about what other people thought and something I know now is that we should never even care what others think because it is our opinion and our family’s opinions that matter and that’s all. I think so many young girls are so concerned with what others think about them but it shouldn’t be about that. It should be about being happy with the way you are regardless of your flaws. Nobody can take away or lessen your beauty on the inside and outside.
Your parents are not out to get you. Let me repeat that. Your parents are not out to get you. Bottom line. Anything your parents are telling you not to do the reason is more than likely because they LOVE you and they want to protect you!
Stop making a big deal out of nothing. In high school, it is so easy to over exaggerate everything from an argument with a friend, boys and who is hanging out with who on the weekend. The things that we thought were so huge seriously mean nothing at all. Really though…I shouldn’t have even been thinking about half the stuff I was overreacting about. Thinking back now on all the things that went through my mind when I was a teenager just blows my mind because it proves how insecure and dramatic all girls are when we are younger.
Family time is cool, I promise. Now that I have been out of high school for nearly five years I constantly think back on family time during high school. The Sundays I spent with my parents and the family dinners I took for granted. When I was in high school, I thought nothing of these days because I was so used to it. In fact, there were multiple times where I wanted to hang out with my friends instead. Looking back now, I wish I cherished those days and really enjoyed them to the fullest potential. Once you’re off to college you will really wish you did!