While friendships are probably one of the most important relationships we have they can also be the most confusing, difficult, and heartbreaking. I find it intriguing to know that how we grow as a person often effects the type of people we attract and that going different places in life and wanting new things can possibly mean ending others that were once great.
There are so many different stages we go through in a lifetime and it’s truly amazing to see how many paths we have to take before we find the road we are supposed to end up on. Like most people, I have gone through my fair share of friends and social groups.
As we get older we start to wonder why certain friendships are lost and why we seem to no longer get along with friends that we cared for so much at one point or another. We start to think maybe it’s me, or them, or that issue we had last week, maybe it was a fight we had a party, or for some reason we just aren’t getting along anymore. But, it’s truly just because we have grown…we are different from who we were before.
It’s hard to know that some friendships are better off with an ending than continuing on to something that probably shouldn’t be anymore. But, it is nice to discover that some friendships never change and others seem to end but things end up turning around later on and we get that friendship back.
I am lucky enough to have a boyfriend that truly is my best friend. I couldn’t imagine a better person to live every day with and enjoy all the uncertainties of the future with. For me, he is the best it gets and I couldn’t be happier with that. We were talking the other day about how it is truly difficult to find friends of ours that will simply just go out for drinks or go out to dinner/basically do anything with. But after discussing it a little while longer we discovered that it is because of where we are in life and where our friends are.
First, most of my friends are in California or are basically unavailable unless something is planned in advance. Then, Jacob’s friends that I have grown to love are generally busy as well. Some work all the time, others are too tired because of work, and then there are the ones who are still going out to clubs and bars all the time. It’s just always so difficult to find time for each other.
But, Jacob and I discovered that we are all just simply trying to make moves in our lives and start/complete our goals now so that we can have a comfortable future and not have to worry about missing out on time with our friends because of things like work.
In the end, I am happy with where my life is at as far as friendships are concerned. I have an amazing boyfriend, I have made amends with friends that were no longer involved with my life at one point because I realize that now we are on the same track with our future, I have said goodbyes to the ones who simply influenced me to be someone I didn’t want to be, and I have ended the friendships that I felt were no longer working because we just didn’t care about the same things anymore. I have started friendships with people who now share the same interests and goals as myself and I seem to be a lot happier that way.